It’s always interesting to see someone you knew from years ago. School friends, work colleagues, old lovers. As I get older those gaps are stretching to 10 ,15, 20 years. Invariably they are still the same people, older and hopefully wiser. The general catch up is nice, as in “that’s a nice jumper”, what I find interesting in is their view on life now and how it matches up to who I knew way back when. When we knew them then, we generally knew what type of person they were and what interested them. Their sporting pursuits, hobbies, careers.
Now they have lived whole lives, loved, lost, had children, had careers, re-trained, changed jobs etc etc etc. My question is: is it rude to ask people about how they saw the world as it flew by. What was the view out of their windscreen? Does it cross the line to probe a little deeper? Depends on how well you knew them you say. Well does it? Maybe my social skills aren’t honed to the sharpest edge. We seem to share feelings on facebook but not so face to face. I know, I know, there’s the security of sitting comfortably behind the computer and all that jazz.
I have to run, cows to feed. A thought or perhaps a challenge to leave you with. Ask somebody today, when they ask you how you are, what are they afraid of.
I’d like to continue this thought later, will update and edit this post.
If you ask me how I am I will ask you what you fear. Even in casual conversations take the opportunity to share, even if the other person recoils, jump in. Its amazing what you will discover. Every little connection makes the world less scary and builds community.